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Monday, June 23, 2008


So, the other day while at Disneyland (more on that later), my lovely sister in law and I were discussing the questions people ask young people especially.

After you graduate high school, it's "What are you going to do with your life?" "Are you going to college?" etc. Then when you meet someone, it's "When are you getting married?" In Mormon culture, this question is especially prevalent because we are a marrying people, usually with short engagements. It feels almost incessant, and becomes almost a chore to answer.

Then you get married and the cry is "When are you starting a family?" "Are you ready for a baby?" Even sometimes, "Are you pregnant?" This sort of questioning can become draining. It gets almost ridiculous. At church, if you have been married more than a few months you get hounded, often very kindly, about when your prospective baby is to arrive. In my case and that of my sister in law, we wanted to be married for awhile. Just married, no pregnancy hormones making you into a fat faced (credit goes to Cristin), hormonal crazy person. I felt like I was really not ready for well over a year. It's OK, we certainly have plenty of time to "go forth and multiply" without being asked why not sooner.

For some, this type of questioning goes beyond annoyance to just plain inconsiderate. Infertility is very real and emotionally draining to couples who experience it. So, lay off the questions!

Of course, when you finally reach the point of pregnancy, more questions are thrown at you, more often by complete strangers. Everyone wants to know, when are you due, what are you having, do you have a name picked out? Ad nauseum. Yes, I am, it's a girl, yes, I know I am small, we're still discussing names.... Blah blah, blah....

Hurrah, a baby has arrived and then you are asked all of the stats. This is usually fine because most moms I know, especially new ones enjoy talking about their babies.

You'd think the questioning will end! Nope, not so! No sooner than your baby turns 6 months, the question of another comes up. Sheesh. So here I have my second beautiful girl and people are asking if we are going to "try for a boy." Sure, a boy would be lovely, but what is it to you? You do not need to know my private reproductive affairs! Thank you very much. And no, I don't really care whether I have a boy or not. The gender of my children does not make my family complete!

I know that most people mean well and are mostly just curious about your life and well being, but please, just let me tell you on my own terms and support me in the decisions I make! I am also guilty of asking these questions, but I try to restrain myself as I often do not know all of the other circumstances in someone's life.

I appreciate the curiosity and concern and I must prepare myself for the next round of questioning.


Monday, June 9, 2008

Happy Birthday, Little Bug!

I was meaning to write this on her actual birthday, but it was a bit of a crazy day!

Last Friday, Cordelia turned 1!

Can you believe it? I can't yet. She is still such a little thing, it hardly seems like she could possibly be that old. But she is!

Cordelia was born at 12:54 pm on June 6th, 2007. She weighed 8 pounds on the dot and was 21 inches long. She had some brown and some blonde hair on her little head.

She's a great walker and is starting to be a talk: dada, mama, dut (duck), dod (dog), and dat (that) are her main words. She is still a bit of a peanut at 19 pounds and 29 inches. She is in the "right" size clothing for her age, sometimes a size smaller, and is about as petite as I would expect my kids to come. I suspect she takes after a couple of the great-grandmas. She still looks very much like her daddy, but I can see a bit of myself in her from time to time, especially in the personality department.

I am so happy to have this sweet addition to our family. She's our favorite little Wia.


Monday, June 2, 2008

All Quiet On The Potty Front...

So, a couple months ago, I made a very excited post about Cecily going on the potty for the first time. So far, it has been the last as well. Very occasionally we get her to have some interest in the potty. And by occasionally, I mean maybe twice a month (since about a year ago). That's it. She has no interest in it whatsoever otherwise. She is 30 months old aka 2 & 1/2 years old. I don't know how to get her interested and I have tried a lot. I was told that a child that was ready would potty train in a week or so, and one that wasn't would take a month or more. I don't know the truth in that, but I don't think she is ready yet. I guess it will just be a waiting game until she's there. It does get a little frustrating when some of her peers are already there. But then others aren't. I suppose it's like any other milestone, she'll be there in her own time frame.


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